Over four months without writing a blog post, yikes! Cue the self-imposed shame for not sticking to a regular writing schedule. But, after rereading a previous post of mine, The Year of Action, I’m reminded that it’s not about reaching a certain number of posts, but just making an effort to blog more this year than I have in recent years. Anyway, on to what brings me to write this post, building confidence, which is somewhat of a sequel or follow-up to my post, Regaining Confidence through Vulnerability.
Four months ago, I was losing sleep over coaching new, unknown clients in my new role as a personal trainer/coach. I was so nervous that I would do something wrong or look foolish demonstrating an exercise. Fast forward to today, well yesterday actually, when I tipped over backwards after pulling out the drawer of the file cabinet too fast and was laughing about it with the gym member who saw it all unfold. When I first started coaching, I was overly concerned about doing every aspect of the position perfectly and trying to come up with scripts and specific game plans for each day. I quickly learned a simple fact that I overlooked, everyone is different. Everyone has a different personality, a different exercise background, a different level of comfort in a gym setting. I could keep going. Coaching requires almost constant on-the-spot thinking. Someone may need an unexpected exercise modification or two people may need to use the same piece of equipment at the same time or your new phone’s location settings may block you from connecting to the timer (ugh!). No amount of pre-planning is going to help in most scenarios. That was a scary realization for me coming from an accounting background where almost everything can be done most efficiently with strict policies and procedures.
Instead of letting fear of the unknown overcome me, I decided to look at it as a new learning experience and a chance to change my perspective on surprises. As I described in my CliftonStrengths Results post, my top two Strengths are Restorative and Learner, so this was the perfect opportunity to put those traits to good use. Those with the Restorative Strength easily identify problems and quickly resolve them while those with the Learner Strength want to continuously learn and improve and just enjoy the process of learning itself. Four months ago, I would have been terrified if I gave a member a new exercise and it didn’t work for them for some reason, but now I look at it as a chance to use the knowledge I have to suggest an alternative or a regression that may work better for that session. It also gives me a chance to research later to better understand why the original exercise may not have been appropriate. Before, I would have thought I was failing as a trainer for giving someone an exercise that needed to be modified, but now I see it as growing as a trainer and developing a more personal relationship with each member.
With each unexpected situation that I face and then solve, I gain confidence in myself that I’ll be able to figure out a solution. As someone who’s always been very doubtful of myself and my abilities, especially recently, this confidence is a new feeling and it’s a great feeling! And with that exclamation mark I suppose I should end it here. I don’t want to let confidence turn into egotism. 🙂